The long hot summer….that’s what 2011 will be remembered for, hopefully by that it will be for more than just these record breaking 100+ degree days. Wouldn’t it be nice if 2011 was remembered by you and your husband as your long hot passionate summer? Well, Moms, we’ve got one month left to make that a reality, so here are three simple tips for bringing on the kind of heat you really want with your husband for the summer of 2011–cut him some slack, read all about it, and indulge in a Staycation for two.
Cut him some slack! Okay, here’s the deal, every relationship conflict has three sides to it–yours, his and the truth. The truth is always a mixture of the two sides. When you are caught up in the conflict it’s hard to gain proper perspective. I’m not saying your husband should automatically be off this hook if he is behaving like a brat, but I am saying you can either be right or you can have peace by looking at all sides to your conflicts. Have you ever heard the “kick the cat” syndrome–a term made famous by Zig Ziglar? Basically it follows a day in the life of an executive who has a really bad day–his boss yells at him, a major deal falls through, then his car breaks down. He comes home and yells at the wife, who yells at the kids, who kick the cat. Stress trickles down. Sometimes bratty behavior by your husband could have nothing to do with you–really! He’s just overwhelmed by stress and taking it out on you. That doesn’t make it okay, but it explains why. Cut him some slack. Think of something he loves to soften him up and calm his stress. Undeserved compassion is a great way to bring on the heat of passion and defuse the heat of anger.
Read All About it! There are some great books out there on how to spice up the bedroom. One of my favorites is Kevin Leeman’s Sheet Music (bed sheets that is, not music sheets). Or read brain doctor Daniel Amen’s book Sex on the Brain or Juli Slattery’s No More Headaches just to name a few. You’ll gain some eye-opening insights and creative ideas to increase the passion in your marriage. Besides, were women, we love to read about romance, don’t we? So why not read about how to increase your own reality, instead of merely indulging in fiction.
Indulge in a Staycation for Two! Summer is a great excuse to call on the grandparents or friends to have sleep over with your kids so you can have some much needed alone time with your man! And you don’t have to go far or blow the budget to invigorate yourself. Dallas/Fort Worth has so may great luxury resorts and tourist attractions, but how many of us take advantage of them ourselves? No matter how long you’ve been married or distracted by parenting responsibilities, you can bring back your passion with a little Staycation for just you and your spouse. Hey, you can even try doing something that teens would do–like being crazy enough to try bungee jumping at Six Flags or making out at the park. Get away and think fun for two.
There is no doubt the heat has been on this summer, let’s make the last month of this hot season all about bringing on the heat in your marriage. Follow my three simple tips — cut him some slack, read all about it, and indulge in a Staycation for two — and you the temperature will be steadily rising!
